The process or the outcome
In years gone by, sat at a wedding as a single man, I see a young couple, infatuated with one another, nothing but love in their eyes.
I think to myself, “I want that”.
Having been in a relationship now for over a year, I know that this outcome doesn’t come without hard work.
Not walking away when your values don’t align, instead sitting down together and understanding each other’s perspective.
Doing something not because you want to do it, but because your partner wants to do it, and you want them to be happy.
Doing household chores (which I hate) because it makes a big difference to your partner.
Sharing our possessions, unconditionally.
The OUTCOME is a MOMENT IN TIME.
Contrastingly, the PROCESS is every moment through time.
Often we desire the OUTCOME, start the PROCESS and quit.
We want the OUTCOME, but not the PROCESS.
Unfortunately, we can’t get the views from the peak of the mountain without first climbing it.
When we’re setting goals, it pays to consider the process, not the outcome. Doing so can save us a lot of time and effort.
Can you think of an outcome many want but not the process?
Photo 📸 ascending the summit of Carn a Mhaim in the Cairngorms National Park 🏴